As someone who has never been more than a couple hours from the woman she once resided in for nine months, I have reservations about moving out of California. Mainly because my mom has our family dog and the thought of something happening to her and not being able to go see her, that kills me. Yeah, yeah, I love my mom, dad and other family in Cabazon but Skuzzlebutt is my queen bee. Other than the dog I think about more than I’d like to admit, I will say it’s those little things that sometimes make me miss the town that caused me to be an angsty teen scrawling The Used lyrics all over my binders in high school.
A film school grad, Matt came to California, like many, wanting to work in movies and while reality can be a cruel bitch, he survives at a day job while working with his buddies on various projects here and there. When times are rough he thinks about heading to Virginia to be with his family, but then again, he doesn’t want to give up on his dreams. It’s the daily struggle for many, and we talked about that and what he really misses about his mom, dad and other family back east.
Just a month ago 40% of you said when it came time to move out, you packed up and headed to a whole new state. That means right now those 40% are sitting away from their family and likely not seeing them as much as those of us who either live not too far from our mom and dad, in the same town as them still, or for some of you – in the same house. When that happens the inevitable is that you’ll miss your loved ones from time to time. It’s natural to be homesick…or is it?
Sitting at the library in downtown, avoiding crazy people, I read in Susan Matt’s Homesickness: An American History that, “Expert literature written for mental health practitioners, as well as popular culture, have ceaselessly promoted the idea that homesickness is a condition that, with proper training can be eliminated in childhood. Consequently, those who feel it as adults are seen as maladjusted.” So we’re supposed to get over missing our mom’s when we’re kids and when we fly the nest, to have any sort of emotional distress is just wrong?
Looking at this title, I just wanted to share that even at 28…I was still tattling on my younger brother to our dad this week. Our dad even told my brother, “You know your sister will be right back on this phone if you don’t start acting right.” With that, I’d say maybe one of the ways to end your adult rivalry between your siblings is to not rat them out every chance you get – but sometimes they deserve to be called out. Anyways, here are some other ideas to squash the beef between you two if you’re still walking that rivalry line.
A handful of shows have been notes this week from The Simpsons to Shameless, but when the foundation of this project was being churned in the mixer, another show came to mind. The Mikaelsons on The Originals have one of the most intricately woven history that includes not only rivalry, betrayal and quite a load of bloodshed but also one of loyalty and in a twisted way, love.