Hopefully by the end of the year I will find a way to include a piece about Away We Go in this whole thing, but today we’re talking about another gem from John Krasinski, Something Borrowed. In the grand scheme of looking at facets of pop culture where adults have crushes on one another I came up blank months ago and quite honestly hadn’t thought of it until this week rolled up on me and was like, “Well, you better rack that brain for something.” That’s when Something Borrowed came to mind.
Three years ago I went to PaleyFest, heard Mindy Kaling speak of not dating much when she was coming up and that she attributed that to her success in many ways. With parties and boyfriends not being her norm she was able to study more. Three years ago I wrote a post on Tumblr (and later on Fandomania) sort of starting this growing list of “thank yous” to guys I’d liked over the years who did not like me back – by really no fault of their own as they did not know of my feelings at the time. However, I’m sure they would not have returned the sentiments even if they had. It’s always been my go-to point when talking about this topic and here it is again with some timely edits and additions…
Initially a few former crushes were going to be interviewed this week, but alas at 29-years-old I completely chickened out in telling the guys I liked in elementary and middle school how I had crushes on them once upon a time. I had reservations about admitting to my most recent, but since this was about crushing as an adult – I figured my childhood and adolescent affections did not need to be made public. At least that’s what I told myself as I debated with shooting them a quick Facebook message that in my head would have been just as humiliating as if they knew years ago…So instead just one note was sent and it was to a guy I worked with about four or so years ago.
The reality of your entire class finding out who you had a crush on when you were a kid was one of the top 10 fears I think most of us faced. Nightmares owned our slumber as we tossed and turned at the idea of word getting out and being teased for the rest of our existence. In all honesty, thinking back I think the teasing lasted for about a month and then we were over it because we’re kids and our minds wander on to the next shiny piece of information to come our way. Of course you can’t tell a kid today that because when you’re that age, your crush being public knowledge is unfathomable…but why is that the case as we continue to get older? Like my favorite Meryl Streep movie, it’s complicated.