Not everyone is as sexually active as you think. Even with the invention of apps that literally deliver it to your door. It’s like takeout for your naughty parts. Anyways, yeah – not everyone is doing it and everyone has their own reasons for not partaking and here are eight of them. Be it because no one is offering, some fear of intimacy or even a literal lack of interest – there’s no shame here.
For decades now teen movies have been feeding us delicious lies about so many things; popularity, makeovers, and of course sex. Either you were “cool” and active in high school or you weren’t and even though it was based on teens and not adults, I feel like those movies continued to have an impact as we got older. Like we talked about with Becky, there are clear stigmas attached to being a virgin and they get worse with age.Teen movies set us up for that because how many are about the woes of a virgin just trying to get laid? Also, how many of them portray first times like an awesome event?
There was no way my virginity would have been nonexistent sooner than it had been because well, no one was really knocking on my door and I wasn’t really trying. That was of course after a panel at Comikaze led me to a dating site for geeks and I met numero uno. A girl not used to charm and such explicit conversations, I was swept under the hormonal tide. I definitely think low self-esteem and a shit show of a life at the time plus the naivety played into an emotional cluster fuck that was brewing.
Down in Irvine lives a woman named Becky who spends her time as a civil defense attorney. Slaying the law like a boss is what she does, but it’s what she doesn’t do that brings her here today. While some her age would avoid this topic like an old classmate in Walmart on a trip back to their hometown at Thanksgiving, Becky isn’t shy at all about sharing her choice to be a virgin. She points out the stigmas, pressure and more…
Back in the day when there was shit like slaves and scurvy, fathers often used their daughters’ virginities as a bargaining tool to get food, land – basically pussy was golden currency. Fast forward to today and that isn’t a common practice anymore (thank god), but we still have this idea of ownership when it comes to v-cards. Perhaps because we live in an over-sexualized culture where virgins re sought after – up to a certain age and then cast aside; ironically. A stigma of course played out in movies like The 40-Year-Old Virgin, KELLY CLARKSON! Makes you think, does having sex even make you more of an adult?