Back in the day when there was shit like slaves and scurvy, fathers often used their daughters’ virginities as a bargaining tool to get food, land – basically pussy was golden currency. Fast forward to today and that isn’t a common practice anymore (thank god), but we still have this idea of ownership when it comes to v-cards. Perhaps because we live in an over-sexualized culture where virgins re sought after – up to a certain age and then cast aside; ironically. A stigma of course played out in movies like The 40-Year-Old Virgin, KELLY CLARKSON! Makes you think, does having sex even make you more of an adult?
It doesn’t matter who you are, famous or not, people will go about judging you and your lifestyle at some point during your existence. Can we agree though that women have to deal with this a whole lot more though? Whether it’s wearing or not wearing enough makeup, the way we choose to dress, the jobs we take, or in the case of this week – our sexual nature. For the following celebrities, they’ve either been a victim and clapped back or just stood up for their fellow sisters when it’s come to slut shaming – and they’re all more fabulous for it.
In the last couple of years Amber Rose has started her own SlutWalk events and they’ve been very well received. One can’t be sure if it’s the feminist message, or the fact that she’s a famous face holding an event where girls come with their boobs hanging out – but nevertheless, they are popular and still continue to happen. The message of these walks is to not only bring awareness to the idea of slut shaming, but to take that word back. Words cannot hurt if you take away the negativity that surrounds them. It’s also a call to action to change the idea of rape culture.
Growing up a fat girl who looked more like a fat boy, there was never anyone looking to hook up with me until I got a hell of a lot older and put some effort into life. So whenever I heard someone was sleeping with anyone when I was younger, I was amazed. My hormones were out of control and I had no one but late night Cinemax to hold me over. Meanwhile it felt like everyone I shared a classroom with from middle school through college was getting lucky, and I was beyond jealous.
Teasing is a part of everyone’s past. For some it can be shaken off and thought of as a piece of their adolescence, but for some it was a nightmare they wouldn’t wish on anyone. For Emily Lindin, it was just that. Being attacked for things she’d never done, but that were rather assumed of her – Emily was more than teased, she was harassed and made to feel so low, that ending her life was often a thought. Instead of giving in though, she took to writing in a diary. She wrote down every moment, every feeling, every ounce of pain was poured onto those pages.
Fast forward to a grown up Emily, a strong woman who thought that her words and experience could help others. With that, her diary was published and The UnSlut Project was born. When it comes to the Project she says, “I’m not about reclaiming the word ‘slut’ OR getting rid of it all together. I’m about undoing the entire ‘concept’ of a slut – the idea that women can be categorized according to some undefined parameters of acceptable sexuality. I want ‘slut’ to lose its power as an insult, so it seems ridiculous and archaic.”