Growing up we all have a clique we’re a part of be it jocks, nerds, rebels, etc. As we grow up, we find ourselves wearing more hats and therefore belonging to one or more cliques depending on many factors. Below are ten typical cliques or groups if you will that we belong to as grown ups.
At least once in our lives we yearn to be a part of a cool crew. TV and movies make us want that popular lifestyle, and then we either get into the group, get over it or become bitter adults about it. For the bitter folks, I’m sure they’ve never heard Good Charlotte’s 2001 masterpiece “The Click.” A theme song for an animated series on MTV, it really grasped the idea of being on the outskirts of social fame, but rather than making it some daunting factoid – it celebrated the differences and made you okay about it. I heard it as an eighth grader and thank it fully for teaching me the so-called cool kids were nothing to admire. They had their way of life and I had mine. Which is a lesson that has lasted throughout adulthood.
Belonging is a natural want from human beings. Even serial killers want to belong and often times that lack of is the reason they do what they do – on top of being seriously wrong in the head. So yeah, we want to belong and that idea comes at a very young age. We seek out friendships as soon as we hit the playground, but over time those friendships shift into what we know as cliques. Even if we’d never call them that – every group in a school yard is one. From day one up until we graduate with diploma in hand. From the goths to the jocks to the fat kids – well at least that’s the first clique I can really remember being a part of.
Being stuck in a position where everyone is on one side of the fence while you’re sitting on the other can be rough, but when it comes to work – sometimes you have to suck it up and push through because you have rent to pay and a kid to feed. That’s the case with Cree. She loves her job but sometimes the people around her can be a bit much as their views on things like Black Lives Matter and religion may as well be on a different planet when compared to hers. Like many though, she has adjusted to this work clique and explains why so as she so poignantly puts it, “friends by circumstance rather than choice.”
Brandon Boyd beautifully sings in Incubus’ “Smile Lines,” “I understand why they say high school never ends…” That often comes to mind whenever I am put in a situation that reminds me of the clique-ish nature of middle and high school. That catty behavior that we’re all guilty of displaying long after we’ve graduated from required education. We’d all love to believe that we’re above that, mature enough to know that we don’t have to be a part of a clique now that we’re older – and of course wiser – but that’s not the case. We’ll be in a clique until the day we die and that’s just how we roll as humans. What we don’t have to do is be bitches about it, but that can sometimes come with the territory.