The Want Ads: When the Hunt Turns Emotional
Looking for a job has gone from dressing your best and looking for “HELP WANTED” signs in windows to endless time spent on websites created to avoid human contact until an interview. While how we look for work has literally become a click of a button, the idea is still the same. It sucks. Countless resumes sent out, the wait for a response, sometimes a backhanded complimentary rejection that could be likened to the “it’s not you, it’s me” idea and of course, the lack of money flowing into your account while you hunt for employment. That is what this week is about. The hunt, the search, the ins and outs getting hired – but first the emotional side of it all.

If you went to college and made the most of it like we talked about last week, it may not be so hard to find a great job after graduation or even later in life when you figure it’s time to move from one job to the next. For everyone else, the struggle is real ya’ll. Tony Beshara preached in The Job Search Solution, “Next to the death of a spouse, child or parent, the fourth most emotional thing we do (tied with divorce) is look for a job,” adding that it “can be an emotionally debilitating experience.” Would anyone disagree with this? Oh yes, those who were hired by their parents, and had a job as a birthright. Not all of us could be the spawn of a CEO who runs a Fortune 500 company and is a staple on the Forbes list. If only though, if only…

Back to what Beshara calls an “emotionally debilitating experience.” There are a number of emotions that erupt when looking for work. The bills piling up cause a lot of stress, sadness can be overwhelming when you continue to get rejected and ignored, anger starts to creep up when you realize people may be judging your situation and fear settles in when it’s late at night and you’re watching yet another episode of The Golden Girls wondering, “What if no one ever hires me?”
As someone who has never worked a “normal” job, I can attest to all of those emotions and then some. I got that diploma and had absolutely no experience besides filling honey jars for an old man in Cabazon, and cleaning rat cages. All I could score was a seasonal slot at Macy’s. A month or so later I was done and onto a commission only job, that was followed by a short contract stint, and a sea of freelance jobs later – here I am. I go back and forth between looking for only writing jobs to broadening the horizon, and you know what? People in offices – they just don’t see the potential I hold. Hello, I’m on a computer typing like 12 hours a day sometimes. I can do your stupid stuff, but I admit – I have no idea how a coffee machine works and I’d likely make Eileen in accounting make it every morning. There’s always an Eileen in accounting. Anyways, they never call back. If they did, I’d have a different anecdote to share right now – but I apply anyway and make them deal with my resume and hope that one day they give this blogging gal a chance to file their expense reports – all my knowledge of office life is based around movies and TV, if you couldn’t tell…”I’m right on top of that Rose.”

The frustrations continue to get overwhelming when you do go into a place and encounter a downright idiot. Like not just an idiot because you don’t like them, but a person who makes you think, “They got hired…this person I’m sure would fail a test given by the insane asylum, as well as a spelling test…but their ass is working and I’m over here counting out change to get some Oreos? Okay life, I see you’re testing me again.”

Looking for work is a struggle but something we all have to deal with, good or bad. Except you Fortune 500 spawn. You can go fly away on your private jet now. For the rest of us, we’ll continue to pretend LinkedIn works.

The Highs and Lows of Looking for a Job

  1. The current unemployment rate in the US is 4.6%.
  2. According to those surveyed, over 50% of you are looking for work, and almost 70% of those people already have a job. We’ll talk more about the idea of being the generation obsessed with always wanting “the best” when we tackle dating, but I found this interesting.
  3. 63% of you said the longest it’s ever taken you to find work is months.
  4. 44% of you say there’s absolutely nothing great about it while another 44% look forward to the new opportunities that await you.
  5. Over 50% agreed the biggest low of looking for work is the stress.

One time AppleOne told me I wasn’t qualified enough to use their services and sent me home and they also didn’t reply to my request for an interview on the subject, so instead we have the founder of Ed2010, I’ll talk more about The Struggle Est. 2009, deal with a short lived MTV series, and of course cap it all off the same way we always do at the end of the week.


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