The Stress of Moving Out and the Reality of Staying In

In a few months we’ll go down the road that is friendship and talk about why it’s weird I still love my childhood friends so much, even though we’re at different stages in our lives and I for one don’t see them as much as I’d like. I love nostalgia and maybe those relationships are just that. A recent study did point out that those good memories held in the past are why we love watching reruns. Anyways, one of those friends is Megan. She was this Spice Girl obsessed kid in platforms on the first day of sixth grade that me and my BFF from elementary school saw as a good choice to add to our lives.

Over the years I watched her go from goth to punk to having this killer rockabilly style, and in that time she’s obtained a very professional position that’s deserving of a round of applause. She does well for herself, but even though she’s doing fine – she’s still living at home with her parents, younger sister, her boyfriend and a cascade of animals. One thing you have to know about Megan – she’d likely save the life of a creature over person. I’m sure of it.

While I’ve met a handful of people over the years in the same boat as Megan, she’s varies from the crowd because she’s not one full of excuses. She recognizes she needs to pack up but she’s also quick to give reasonable explanations as to why she still resides in the place she’s called home for a little too long now. Megan is quick to point out her own insecurities about the whole thing, and you have to respect that.

Kendra: Do you think there’s a negative stigma when you’re of a particular age and you’re still in your parent’s house?

Megan: There is definitely a stigma attached to being almost thirty years old still living in my parent’s house. I hold a professional position, have always been (otherwise) independent, but here I am still under their roof. The thing that’s the worse is coworkers will bring it up and tell me how I should buy a house or what “cute” house they saw that I should rent. I know they are just being helpful and I have admittedly told them in the past I was looking, but they are just on it. I think it bugs other people more than it bugs myself. When it comes to telling strangers (for whatever reason you need to give strangers all that personal information) you sometimes want to Grandma’s Boy them and tell them you just have a couple roommates to avoid the judgey eyes.
Kendra: What is your reasoning for still living with your family?

Megan: I love living five minutes from my work. It’s so convenient, but to get anything decent out here, I’d have to spend half my paycheck on rent. There are no decent apartments and honestly, I avoid commitment like the plague. I hate making plans, let alone signing a lease or a mortgage.

Kendra: Was there ever a time you wanted to move out but there was an obstacle you just couldn’t get over at the time?

Megan: When it all boils down to it, I do want to move out, but I calculate like crazy. I calculate money for disasters, vet bills, crazy shit that isn’t going to come up. When I moved out for a brief time, I had a shitty landlord, made way less and had to take care of most of the bills. It was miserable. I think I’m trying to avoid any possibility of that situations happening again.

Kendra: Do you help out financially around the house?

Megan: I do somewhat. Not as much as I should, but I am an OCD cleaner, that has to count for something.
Kendra: Do your parents want you to move out or do they just like the idea of having their kids close?

Megan: They hated me moving out. I think if they could have it their way, I would stay forever. It’s kind of ridiculous.

Kendra: Are there any plans to to move out in the near future, or is that not important right now?

Megan: So here’s the thing, not only am I living with my parents, but so is my (long term) boyfriend. We both acknowledge that we need to leave soon. I want him to make his career change first. He desperately wants to go to school to be a barber. I think the smart thing is for us to hang on an extra year while he goes to school. He’s not as patient as I am.

Kendra: Personally, what do you think the biggest high when it comes to living at home?

Megan: The extra money, for sure, and getting to live in a decent home close to work.

Kendra: Now, what’s the biggest low about it?

Megan: When you live at home, no matter how old you are, you’re still a child. Your parents are still up in your business and that can definitely puts a damper on my relationship and our alone time. I still get the “let me know you got there safe” lines from time to time. It’s weird. Understandable, but it definitely takes a jab at your ego.


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