Shh…My Mom’s Asleep: Seeking Permission and Braving Responsibility

Again, “Parents are wonderful people,” and because of this some allow their kids to live with them long after they can legally sign their own lease, rent a car, and get AARP benefits. While some adults cannot wait to pack up and head out, there are others who cling to their childhood bedrooms for dear life. Be it because they want to save up, are not ready to go or well, there are a million and one reasons. None of which I understand but that’s neither here nor there, but like with all situations there are positive and negative aspects to explore.

Good news always helps ease the bad so let’s start with the big positive; no rent. There are a handful of parents who will charge their kid to stay past 18 and I applaud those who do because as the great Wendy Williams says, “If they have a good job and aren’t contributing, they’re irresponsible and need to be given a 90 days notice.” Parents bust their asses off for their kids, so when they’re grown and still living in their house, they should contribute what they can while still saving to get out.

Living at home and not paying for anything but good times fails to build responsibility. Plus, it can put a damper on mental growth. How is one supposed to feel like an adult when they have to ask permission to have a friend over?

It’s weird to witness friends near 30 checking in with their moms and dads when they go out. Hell, I call my mom every day to ensure I’m alive but not when I take off to the store or arrive at a concert. Parents will forever worry, but a play by play…that’s a little overboard. Again, I’ve witnessed it and because I grew up with such a hands off mom, it will never be not odd.

Now, a lot of people would assume those who live at home aren’t that responsible. I just quoted Wendy about that. However, the wonderful Grace Sloan Overton notes in Living with Parents, that “…if you can make a growing-up adjustment at home…it will not only be good for you; it will make you worth all the more to every single person enlarging your life.” Basically as long as you’re working on yourself while at home, who cares how long you’re there. You may not want to stay into your 50’s but just so long as you’re making personal strides while residing in your teenage bedroom – then in some ways, you’re on the right track.


The Highs and Lows of Living at Home

  1. The numbers are in and according to the United States Census Bureau in 2014 when it came to those of you in between 18 and 24, a little under 60% of men and a little over 50% of women still lived with their parents. Those numbers did drop a bit when they surveyed those between 25 and 34; under 20% of men and over 10% of women still resided with mom and dad.
  2. Out of those of you I surveyed who still lived with their parents, 41% of you said you plan to move out between the ages of 26 and 35.
  3. Being low on funds is the biggest reason those of you who live with your parents still do.
  4. Not having to pay rent and being around your family tied as the biggest highs of living at home.
  5. On the flip side, the worst part is that it makes you feel like a kid.

Living with your parents after you’re legally an adult can be the best of times, but it can also be the worst. This week I’ll tell you how down I get anytime I think about having to move back to my mom’s, why one line from Pete Holmes is basically the gospel on this, find out why my childhood friend has yet to leave the nest, and discuss why in the end – it’s awesome to have toilet paper all the time.


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